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Get with it Moms and Dads. Your daughters need to know: there is no equality of the sexes when it comes to sex.
Tell your daughters the truth. Daughters always pay. They better learn it well.
It is what the world already knows: Little boys know it. Big boys know it. Men know it. Moms and Dads know it. The only ones who don't know it, are teen age girls.
What is Vermont telling us as they try to pass a law making it legal for children up to the age of 18 to text sexually oriented and nude photographs on their cell phones.
What is Vermont telling us by considering legalization of sexting? Maybe it is that we should all move there because in Vermont, everyone is pure and innocent, as in the Garden of Eden and no one ever gets hurt.
Or maybe Vermont is telling us something the world already knows: there is no equality of the sexes when it come to sex. Clearly, there are things you must tell your daughters, especially if you live in Vermont. And you better start now.
1) With regard to sexual promiscuity, it is o.k for men.
2) Promiscuous men are called studs, admired by their own sex. The word stud, a noun in current use, as applied to a human is a colloquial expression deriving from Old English where at stud means a stallion hired out for breeding, making our human stud comparable, a male with sexual prowess.
3) Some girls and women admire studs openly or in secret. The rest keep their distance, physically and emotionally.
4) For sexually promiscuous girls or women, there is no admiration. The proof is that you can take your pick with regard to descriptive nouns in current use: slut, whore, tart, prostitute, tramp.
Furthermore, sexually weighted words, deliberately offensive language, are all female gender related.
All this exists because men have made it so. It is their right to evaluate, describe and categorize the meat out there as they wish, because they own it.
They always have owned it. Show one place in the bible where a male was decried as was the sinner, Mary Magdalene, that Jesus forgave. Why was that forgiveness such a notable act?
Does it mean that all the men were virgins until they married, pure and faithful from puberty, and therefore needed no forgiveness? Of course, not. It means no one really cared.
More pejorative words are given to us from biblical times, all relating to women's sexual behavior, harlot being an especially musical one. It has a certain ring to it, doesn't it?
Tell this to your trusting adolescent daughter when she thinks about which ones, of the boys are the coarse, loud mouthed "lewdies", smirking, leering, pinching.
These are the ones that have every girl, starting with the cheer leading squad, and the other least dressed bits of meat out there, categorized, drawn on the bathroom walls, each other's behinds, and other unsavory places.
There is no equality of the sexes.
How does that relate to Vermont? The innocent, naive, sexually unaware male and female legislators want to make it perfectly legal for teenagers, girls or boys to send nude photographs and probably eventually sexually explicit photographs over the internet.
Everyone goes free or do they?
Sorry, my dear daughter, you must tell her, the guys may go free but not the girls.
No decent boy will want to bring you home to his parents or suffer the snickers of his peers.
No decent girl will be allowed to have you as a friend.
You will be an outcast except to the leering "lewdies" who will be glad to take more pictures of you, increasingly explicit, and will also be happy to pass you along from boy to boy to use and then brag about it, like a trophy.
Soon you'll not even be that, after they all have had a turn.
That's high school. But it doesn't stop there. As long as there is an internet and images out there floating around in the ether, like space trash forever, your reputation. dear daughter, as a slut will follow you, in college, when you work, when you look for serious relationships.
And if you, dear adolescent, are thinking about having a family someday, your children will have to have tough skins. It wont be easy when your son or daughter, is faced in school at the age of 9 or 10 with a picture of you, his mother, naked or sexually active with one of the "lewdies". Just picture that. Nothing is more cruel than a few nine or ten year old, snickering in the corner, deriding an unfortunate classmate. In this instance, it will be your child, and the ridicule will spread,faster than chicken pox, with no cure.
Talk about hell for a child, you've got it right there. That's the picture of life for you, dear daughter, for the next 30 years.
Are all boys the same? No, they are not. But the decent ones won't have anything to do with you.
Get with it Vermont. Tell your daughters the truth. They better learn it well. When it comes to sex, there is no equality. Daughters always pay.
Well, it is what the world already knows: there is no equality of the sexes when it come to sex.
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Tips for bringing up baby: "Bricks or Caresses" Here's something interesting for you to think about and decide whether or not it suits the way you envision a positive environment shaping your baby's personality.
Think about the words "yes and no." For example, how many things does your baby do in a half hour that you say yes to or where you say an emphatic no. Which helps the baby in terms of shaping the personality? You are really a sculptor, you know. How about trying the yes approach?
When the toy your baby dropped over the crib down onto the floor for the third or fourth time, do you pick it up and put it back in the crib or do you scowl and mutter to yourself in exasperation? Or do you try something else, a cuddle, a little song, or have a little chat, and forget the toy for the moment. You change the agenda. There is no battle of wills. even with a baby it happens. With the cuddle , the song, the chat, you have a happy smiling baby, one who feels loved and secure. Not a bad start to baby's day. and you'll feel better too. And if you persist in this approach what happens when you have to say no? Try it for a few days. You might see that when you do have to gently shake your head and say, no, no, no, to baby blowing bubbles with the cereal, baby will look at you quizzically or thoughtfully and swallow at least one mouthful of cereal before you try the banana or change the subject altogether, pop him or her into the stroller and go for a walk. You are laying the foundation for a positive relationship with your soon to be toddler.
İRuth Graham 2009
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Tips for Child Raising: "You Are The Mirror", the only mirror that your baby looks into every day. Approve of your baby even when he's crying. You can do it, you know, even when you say no. There's love in your eyes, a soft smile on your face, and love, love, love in your heart. He'll see it.
You know that one of the greatest gifts you can give your baby is the total confidence people need to walk through life. Confidence to try, confidence to fail, confidence to love. Babies receive that confidence by looking into the mirror of your face and receiving approval for what they are. You are the mirror. Your face tells them what they are. The tone of your voice reinforces it. The gentle hands do the same. Your face is your tool. Your voice, your hands. Use these tools and watch your baby flourish. And remember, you cannot fool babies. You can fool adults but not your baby. And don't forget to be good to yourself when baby is taking a nap.İRuth Graham 2009
Fix an easy to make lunch even if you are alone in the house. Or make it the day before and have a friend join you. Our recipe page has tested easy to make recipes which are a feast for the eyes as well. And for some further information on child raising and family relationships, see articles on our special interest page.
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FYI-A recent study on pthalates in baby bath and skin care products, suggests that fragrance free products are a good choice for parents to make, that is a gentle fragrance free soap for washing, and petroleum jelly for moisturizing.
The two following products in their list of ingredients show them to be free of pthalates-1) Baby Magic Baby Shampoo by Mennen and 2) Vaseline Petroleum Jelly by Unilver. Please check with your physician or pharmacist for further information.
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The melamine in baby formula is confined to the Chinese mainland so there is no cause for concern about your baby if you live in the USA. We feel sad for all the families in China worrying about their babies health and hope the authorities get the proper controls in place. Melamine in pet food imported from China was a problem in the USA a few years ago. we are still hoping to find baby food produced in this country. Failing that, just remember, home made baby food is easily within your grasp if you have a blender or a food processor. The trick is to make enough for only three days. Chicken, for example, cooked and ground should be eaten within two or three days. Refrigerate immediately after making in just the size portion you need to eliminate heating, repackaging, refrigerating and reheating. You don't want to do that. Start with making 3 portions of cooked chicken and three portions of a cooked vegetable and see how you progress. Be sure to check with your doctor as to when and how to start these foods.
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Helping Your Son or Daughter Over Peer Rejection: First, all children are different and parents as well. What works
for one doesn't necessarily work for the other.
Having said that,
usually it is better for the parents to stay out of it. Almost 100% of
the time,children forget what has happened and the parents are either
still quarreling or nursing a "hurt".
Second: Children need to learn to sort out their own problems. They
learn a lot from these situations. For example, you can't trust
everyone all the time. Everyone will not always love him. This are life
lessons, sad but true. Your son is growing up into the real world. He
will be stronger for it, not weaker. He will have survived the
rejection.
Third: Yes, suggest he or she look elsewhere and befriend someone who needs a
friend. But more important, look for activities they can participate in,
either connected with school, or church, or community, a sports team, a
volunteer activity, special interest group. Obviously, any sports
activity is good. Volunteer work can be taking a dog for a walk for an
elderly couple. Special interest groups can be caring for the nearby
river, singing in the choir, or playing chess. He or she will find new friends and new goals.
Fourth and very important: His or her life should not depend on one peer
acceptance. By your "getting involved", you are elevating the wrong
notion. Explain that friends are great to have but can sometimes cause
unhappiness. This friend has somehow turned away. Explain that it
happens all the time. Talk about George Washington and how people he
thought were friends, changed. And then talk about the "plant a garden"
group starting at town hall, or the elderly home that needs helpers, or
the new boy or girl who recently moved in, or the currently forming chess club, skiing group, or wrestling team. Your child will be inconsolable for a little while but
with your help and support, things will sort themselves out.
In conclusion, stand back, tell your child about all the things that he or she is
good at and how much you admire these abilities. Now you are restoring
their confidence. That's really important because that is essentially what has been damaged by the rejection.
Then you move on to an acknowledgment of their trouble and finish by explaining that some things just don't work out
exactly when you want them to but eventually they do.
Now, as a parent you continue. Expand their world, their outlook. Talk
about what else there is all around. Finish with a big hug and
assurance that he or she is a great "kid."
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